Often times I have wondered what is it that keeps people rooted in their past refusing to let go.. To let go of feeling of hurt and emotions of a bygone era... It is as if they are letting their past dictate their present as well as future...The one word which I often visualise in such case is "ruminate".. The word is most appropriate for the exercise it undertakes...
While we lose ourselves in such 'rumination', we close eyes to the world of infinite possibility that is waiting to unfold itself if only we allow it to happen...We close eye to the infinite possibility which is within ourselves waiting to manifest itself.. we also deny the blossoming of the great possibility which our near and dear ones have if only we would cast an appreciative glance or turn a 'listening' ears to them... In a single word put, and forgive my linguistic, 'we choose to screw our lives as well as the lives of others who are linked to us by love or fate"...
Here I undertake what I would recommend others to also do as an exercise and analyse (as far as the 'wound' or the thought of the person and/or circumstances which apparently caused those wounds):
- What was it that was taken from me from such an action?... Nothing...
- What does the person causing such hurt means to me?.. Nothing..
- What do I mean to the person in his/her scheme of things?...Nothing..
- How is this event going to change the course of my life?..In no ways...
- Do the person who has caused me such hurt ever thinks for even the millionth fraction of time as compared to how much time I spend 'ruminating' about him/her?... Hardly ever...
- Do I need to put my my entire being in all my relationship and activities in my life now that I have been through this 'hell'... By all means
- Does the incident/event in any way shows me to be inadequate/ill equipped or plain stupid.. In noways
- If given a chance would I try to avenge for the treatment I got...Never...
- Would I let my past, the act of some moron, affect the way my life will be shaped hereafter.. Never
- Should I make use of the lessons I have learnt from my experience to better my life from henceforth and use it to become a better person... By all means...
I strongly believe in the fact that nobody has the power to make you feel small or belittle you until and unless you yourself allow it to happen. A valuable lesson that I learn early in life is the axiom 'its all in the mind stupid' stands true to this day... Thinking ourselves small and feel belittled due to the frustration and hatred of a given man is no excuse to dishonour the gift that we have within ourselves..
On the other hand the behaviour/attitude of the person who have 'hurt' you or caused you to feel small; should invite pity and sympathy from you. We should really sympathise and try to understand the dissatisfaction, hatred and negative energy which a person has got bottled up inside to such an extent that the same oozes out as hate, derision and frustration at others... This by no mean is a reflection of who you are, what you are capable of and how your life will shape in days to come...
I have strongly come to believe that it is possible to bounce back from such phases if we have strong believe in our abilities and faith on our own goodness which will help us go higher in life and become a better person.
So friends, live in the present... live in the now... look at the bright futures which beacons to you with open arms and always remind yourself that " if not here then where and if not now then when, if not you then who...."
And in the meanwhile Just Let it Go...
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